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Psychotherapy for the Pain in Your Life
Have you forgotten the last time you felt truly happy?
Do you ever wish you could turn back time and change the past?
Are you ever so overwhelmed by fear that it takes you breath away?
Are these feelings affecting your job, family life, relationship or school?
If you answered yes to any of the questions above you may be suffering from Depression, Anxiety, Post Traumatic Stress or a combination of the three. If you have come to this site you are probably experiencing a lot of emotional pain that you have tried to deal with it on your own. Some times we try to ignoring our pain or memories or we take a huge risk and talk to our friends. Although our friends love us, often the advice they give us isn’t exactly what we need to hear. And, the bottom line is that what we tell them doesn’t always stay with them. Ultimately we end up just suffering in silence. Eventually your feelings will end up bubbling to the surface and start to make you feel overwhelmed. You can no longer hide your pain.The stress and fear begins to affect most if not all of the areas of your life : school, job, relationships. One day you wake up and all you want to do is stay in bed and hope that today you feel differently. Maybe today will be the day you won’t feel “broken” or hate who you have become.
Sadly, without professional help that rarely happens.
Many strong and independent women and men can suffer from Depression, low self esteem or PTSD at different times during their lives. It can occur suddenly after a crisis, such as the death of a loved one, an accident, a job loss, divorce or a relationship break up. Other times it seems to sneak up on you slowly. You wake up feeling a bit blue and months, or years, later you realize life doesn’t feel the way you imagined it would feel, or the way it used to feel. Your friends keep saying, ” why are you sad, you have everything you could want in life.” Sadly, this rarely seems to help, if anything it typically makes you feel worse about yourself. Others may tell you to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and “get over it.” If it were that easy, no one would feel depressed and therapists would not ever be needed.
I know that if you have found yourself on this site you are struggling. You are probably feeling in pain, crying more than usual, and your problems are keeping you up at night, tossing and turning which means when you get up in the morning, the last thing you want is to get on with your day. You are exhausted, our self esteem has tanked, and you don’t remember who you used to be when you would wake up happy, bouncing out of bed.
I also know that even though you may connect with what I’ve written the thought of contacting me is terrifying.The only thing harder than looking up therapists in your zip code is calling one, even one that feels like they may have crawled into your brain and taken notes! Perhaps it’s the stigma of seeing a therapist. Even in 2014 that is still a common concern. Maybe you don’t want your friends or partner to know that your feelings have gotten so big that you needed help from a professional. Perhaps, your loved ones have told you that you don’t need a therapist.
“Only crazy people see a therapist.” “You are strong, this too shall pass.” “God never gives you more than you can handle.” “Everyone gets blue-that doesn’t mean you need to tell anyone!” “If you see a therapist for what’s going on they will put you on medication for life!”
And then there are the thoughts you may have about seeing a therapist for a mood disorder or PTSD. “If I see her, what if she tells me my worst nightmare-.that my gut feelings are right…I AM depressed! I do have a mood disorder. Maybe I was abused and I don’t remember!””She’s going to label me as crazy! I can’t be classified as crazy! What would my family think? What would my friends think? What would my dog think?”
I know you won’t believe this, but I’ve heard all of these statements and fears plus many more in my 20 years of being a therapist. People that love us the most often try to convince us that we don’t need help. And often this helps us to stay in denial. I don’t have a problem, I’m just a little moody. I understand that there is something terrifying about feeling that we are out of control of our emotions and our thoughts. And often
My name is Dr Karen Hoving and I am a Psychotherapist in Aurora, CO (South of Denver). I have been in practice for 20 years, which is unusual for many therapists in Colorado who have been out of school for only a few years. Although I have experience in working with many issues and with different ages of clients, in the last 10 years I decided that it was best to focus on just a few issues that I could specialize in, know a lot of information about, instead of having a more generalized practice working with 10 or 15 different issues. When you consider it, although I was taught about all of the mental health issues that we know about in my Doctoral Program, it seems that no one can be a specialist in everything! Things have changed in the field in the last 20 years. The best therapist’s focus on just a few specialties, although they have clearly studied all mental health disorders. This is what I like to call a medical model. You see your GP for a cold or sinus infection, but if you develop Rheumatoid Arthritis or Multiple Sclerosis, you will be sent to a specialist that only works with those diseases. This is not because your GP didn’t study RA or MS in medical school, because they did. But they didn’t specialize in these areas. And with your body, or your emotions, when something isn’t right you don’t want to see a generalist- you want a specialist.
I am now specializing with Adults and older Adolescents that are experiencing Depression (which may be caused by self esteem issues or stress management problems, in addition to marital issues, job concerns, money issues in this economy or many other issues that may contribute to depression) or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).PTSD is typically a result of a recent trauma such as a severe accident or sexual assault, or from childhood abuse or assault. There are other issues that can cause PTSD such as head injuries, etc but these are the issues that I specialize in.
Many of my clients come to me because they feel that life has gotten more difficult than they can deal with no matter how strong they are. Some are experiencing panic or anxiety attacks from childhood memories, or anxiety, that is now interfering with their day to day activities. Others are feeling so sad that the thought of leaving the house in the morning is too overwhelming, they just don’t have the energy. Depression can suck the energy out of you so that you can’t concentrate, or gather joy from the normal things you do during your day. And sleeping? Well either you are wanting to sleep all day every day…or you can’t sleep at all.
I know that the only thing more frightening than reading this site is actually contacting me. What if I don’t answer the phone? What if you forget what to say? How will you know if you like me? If I don’t answer the phone, please leave a confidential message at 720. 878.8891 and I promise I will get back to you within an hour. All you have to tell me is your first name and your phone number. I’ll call you and we’ll work all the rest out. If you are too scared to call me you can leave me an email message with your phone number and I will call you. When you call I will give you a Free 45 Minute Consultation over the phone or in my office. You won’t feel rushed and will have plenty of time to ask me all of your questions and concerns.
I know that picking up the phone is terrifying. But please know that with that one call or consultation we can begin your journey to feeling better and more in control than you have perhaps in years. Often, after a few sessions my patients report that they didn’t realize how bad they felt before we began working together. Many of my patients say that they are stunned that after often just a few sessions they begin to have hope again. Imagine what that will feel like? Instead of hiding from daylight, now looking forward to waking up each day. Think about how it will feel when you don’t have to worry about nightmares, panic attacks or endless periods of sadness. I know you are overwhelmed right now, but if you don’t contact me you will still feel this way tomorrow. Perhaps if you call you too will see that there is hope for you. And I am here to listen and help you feel better about your life by working through your issues.
I encourage you to read the rest of my site and decide if I can help you. There are many articles on Depression, Trauma, and feeling better about yourself. I also offer Online Therapy if you can’t make it in to the office. If you have questions, know that you are one call away.
It’s Safe To Begin Your Journey Today.
Call or Email me to get your free 45 minute consultation.
Dr Karen 720.878.8891